#Highly Sensitive People: What do you regret?

What do you regret? I regret that I didn’t learn earlier in my life that I was a highly sensitive person.

This article is written by Bronnie Ware, a palliative care worker who has worked with a countless number of patients who are sadly seeing their last days on earth. When Bronnie had questioned the patients about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

The Top 5 Regrets

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people haven’t honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try to honor at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realize, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard. This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship.

Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings. Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.Often they would not truly realize the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realize until the end that happiness is a choice.

They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called “comfort” of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness.

What do you regret? I definitely related to… I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings, and I wish that I had let myself be happier. I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Are you an effective complainer?

Here’s a subject that I know is challenging for us highly sensitive people. I personally don’t like conflict, but sometimes it’s necessary to get what we want and deserve. Here’s a helpful article that can help us.

Four tips to be an effective complainer by Dan Gregory & Kieran Flanagan

Getting what you want comes from being willing to be a little irritating. Here’s how to be a better squeaky wheel.

As the old adage goes, the squeaky wheel gets the oil. The people who complain the most get the most attention—and fair or not, they get what they want. Yet most of us are uncomfortable with the idea of complaining. We don’t want to make a noise about things, much less an irritating one.

But when our annoyance is greater than our inertia and we simply cannot stand it anymore, irritation is a powerful way to change things.

If you want action, don’t underestimate the willingness to complain, to wear people down until they would rather change than listen to the sound of us complaining for another minute—until it is less painful to just make the process better.

Kids are artists at this. At some point, most parents have just given in to just shut them up—it’s called “pester power.” It’s a proven marketing theory that kids will pester their parents relentlessly until buying them that thing hurts less than not buying it.

Most adults are too socially compliant to be that annoying. We do not want to be squeaky wheels for fear of rejection, so we keep quiet. It’s hardly surprising, because from an early age, we are taught that complaining is impolite. We are conditioned to say nothing and to get on with it (besides the few times we stayed strong until Mom and Dad folded).

Yet those willing to defy this, to complain, can actually change things that aren’t working—or, at the very least, draw attention to issues we otherwise might not have noticed. The loudest squeak gets the go-ahead, the OK. The silent soldier just carries onward, hoping someone will notice the same things they do and do something about it. Leaders and organizations willing to speak out about what’s wrong can inspire people to follow them as they seek out a better way.

So how do you become a squeaky wheel and harness the power of complaining? Here are four suggestions:

1. Don’t complain about everything, complain about one thing.

Squeaky wheels are not simply making an irritating noise; they are asking for oil, which means there is a clear reason for why they are behaving the way that they are.

Constant complaining on multiple topics quickly turns you from a squeaky wheel to a whiney complainer. Defining what you are complaining about and being clear on why you are doing so is important if you want to be heard.

2. Have an idea on how to fix it.

Granted your theory on fixing things may not be perfect, but the point is that you are attempting to solve it—not simply hoping someone else will. Complaining with a vision of a better way is not the same as moaning.

3. Don’t be afraid of a little negativity.

The power of positivity might be trending in business right now, but negative motivators are extremely influential, too. Look at break points and what you aren’t doing so well—not just the things that are working. If you don’t have any ideas, you are not listening hard enough to the squeaky wheels around you.

4. Be willing to be not be liked.

Complaining is a little annoying, but that is precisely the point. Your willingness to say what’s not popular, what’s not being said, is what is required to challenge the status quo. Squeaky wheels need to accept the fact that not everyone will like what they hear, and that people will try to cover their ears or look the other way. People who change things are a lot of times seen as misfits because they question the way things have always been done. But if we are willing to keep squeaking, someone will eventually bring the oil can.

Are you an effective complainer? If so, can you share some tips? If not, why not? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Do you act in the (imperfect) moment?

Here’s an interesting article about perfectionism. I know as a highly sensitive person that I can relate to this. Can you?

Act in the (imperfect) Moment by Michelle Sutton-Kerchner

Stop waiting for the perfect time. It’s already here …

Procrastination is a lifestyle for many. The perfectionist in us delays tasks until they can be executed flawlessly. The result: A growing list of ignored workouts, unfinished projects, and missed lifetime opportunities.

As a perfectionist, the pressure is always on the self and the need to meet high expectations (that are often unreasonable). It takes a lot of energy to live that way in our imperfect world. Something is better than nothing. That should be the perfectionist’s mantra. Stop allowing perfectionism to interfere with your attempts at healthy living. Accept reality and work with it. The first step in every task is often the hardest, so don’t add the pressures of perfection.

Acknowledge All Efforts

This can mean giving yourself credit for simply showing up. Stop at the gym, even if you are not “up for” your workout. Experiment with a variety of exercise equipment. You may not accomplish a full workout, but you will progress along your journey to a healthier lifestyle.

If you forgot your bathing suit for your aquatics workout, lace up your sneakers and hit the exercise Floor. No sneakers? It may be time to give a barefoot Group Fitness class a try. If the day does not allow your daily one-hour workout, increase the intensity and accomplish a half-hour. Achieving the non-perfect workout is better than no workout at all.

Don’t give up because conditions are not ideal. Compromise and make it work. Whatever you do, even if a portion of the whole, do it with vigor and self-confidence. You are striving to improve with each movement. That’s what counts.

You won’t always be perfect at exercise, or at life. You do not need to be. Give your best effort and be happy with yourself. Your goal may be 30 minutes on a piece of gym equipment, but 20 minutes might best for today. Weight loss goals may elude you, but notice other improvements in your health as you persevere. Perhaps one healthy improvement can be accepting yourself as you are today– a person who is striving to become healthier, stronger, and happier.

Stop being preoccupied with a perfect performance, whether in sports or everyday life. This mentality distracts and drains energy and pleasure. Suddenly, the sport/hobby/workout becomes a chore where self-satisfaction and enjoyment are replaced with doubt and struggle to gain the unachievable. Keep your expectations realistic.

Do It Right, Not Perfect

Even paradise has flaws.

Perfect Being Imperfect

The path to life is frequently marked with detours and obstacles. An unbending road often leads to a dead-end. Mistakes and change are a couple of life’s only constants. Stop procrastinating for fear of flaws. Embrace this imperfect life and all you can learn from it.

Do you act in the (imperfect) moment? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Do you need some tips to find your passion?

It’s very important that highly sensitive people have a strong sense of purpose and being. Finding your passion is the key to a happy and purposeful life. Here are some tips to consider:

How to Carve Out Your Life’s Passion by John C. Maxwell

“Follow these tips and wake up excited to start your day, every day—because life is too short to be bored”… John C. Maxwell

Sculptor Ra Paulette has an unusual passion. He digs caves by hand and then turns his newly created spaces into works of art. Using only a pickaxe, a scraper and a wheelbarrow, Paulette has been digging caves for nearly 30 years. His multiroom structures are remarkable; they are sculptures and art galleries in one. Filled with paintings, pools, skylights, furniture and waterfalls, Paulette’s caves are redefining the way art can be experienced.

For the Academy Award-nominated documentary Cavedigger, director Jeffrey Karoff follows Paulette as he carves into the earth, one shovelful at a time. In the film—which you can find at CavediggerDocumentary.com—Paulette explains, “When I’m working on a project, I’m totally obsessed. I’m thinking about it all day long. All night long, I’m dreaming… digging dreams. Most people who are engaged in physical labor aren’t having the fun that I’m having.”

I can’t say that I’d ever want to spend time digging in a cave, but I certainly admire Paulette. He has passion. He loves what he does, and he does it with exuberance.

When you think about or talk about your work, are you like Paulette? Does it consume you? Do you wake up excited about it? Do you go to sleep thinking about it? If not, your life may be missing an ingredient.

Paulette is 74 now and still digging caves. Recently I turned 68, and like Paulette, I am still on fire. While other people my age may be slowing down, I’m revving up. I wake up early, excited to meet the challenges of my day. I’m like a kid. Let me tell you something: You never have to drag a passionate person out of bed!

Following your passion changes your life and the lives of those around you. It makes life exciting. It inspires your team. It transforms the grind of work into an invigorating challenge. I may be in a position to retire, but I have no inclination to do so. There’s still too much I want to do.

Don’t go another day, week, month or year without finding and harnessing your passion.

To fire up your passion…

Listen to yourself. Too many people simply go through the motions every day. The demands of life cause them to make convenient choices rather than heartfelt ones. But to tap into your passion, you have to know what you want. Look for clues. What excites you? What makes you dream? What makes your heart sing?

You’d think something as big as a life passion would be easy to identify, but often it’s not. Take some time to reflect on these questions:

1. If you inherited so much money that you would never have to work again, what would you do with your time?
2. What would you never give up because you love it so much?
3. What hobbies have you pursued over the years and why? These may be clues that will tell you something about yourself.
4. What are you naturally good at—so good that other people compliment you?
5. When others consult you for advice, what do they ask you about?
6. What are you curious about?
7. What do you do better than anything else?

Give it time. It took me time to home in on the things that were at the core of my being. The same will be true for you. You don’t just find your passion; you have to pursue it. Paulette says that people are uncomfortable with things for which there is no blueprint. That is so true! But if you want something different from what you currently have, you need to move into uncharted territory.

Pay the price. Life is full of trade-offs. Understand that sacrifice and passion go hand in hand. There is a price to following your passion. I don’t know what your journey will charge you, but I know that there will be a cost. Prepare to pay it, and I promise that the expense will be worth it.

Become the best. Passion is vital to keep you going, but it’s not enough to earn a paycheck. People pay for excellence. You can have all the passion in the world, but if you don’t have the skill, you won’t be able to make your passion your profession. Look for ways to expand and fine-tune your skills.

Define success for yourself. Paulette doesn’t make a lot of money, but he considers himself a success. Why? Because he does what he loves, and he does it with excellence. Hold yourself to the standard you set. What does a passionate, fulfilled life look like?

If you’re a skeptic, you may be grumbling that all this “passion talk” is little more than inspirational fluff. Not true. When you are passionate about something, you are all-in. You spend countless hours thinking about the thing that drives you, allowing you to formulate new ideas, solve problems and strategize ways to build upon past efforts. Passionate people are persistent—and they are innovators.

Life’s too short to be bored and unfulfilled. You were not created to be mediocre. Find your passion and use it to light up your life. As Nelson Mandela said, “There is no passion to be found in playing small—in settling for a life that is less than the one that you are capable of living.”

Do you have more tips to find your passion? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Food for thought by Carolyn Wong Chin

Food for thought by Carolyn Wong Chin

For all my friends, whether close or casual. Just because everyone will go through some hard times at some point. Life isn’t easy. Just something to think about. Did you know the people who are the strongest are usually the most sensitive?

Did you know the people who exhibit the most kindness are the first to get mistreated? Did you know the ones who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most?

Did you know the three hardest things to say are I love you, I’m sorry, and help me? Sometimes just because a person looks happy, you have to look past their smile to see how much pain they may be in.

To all my friends who are going through some issues right now–let’s start an intentional avalanche. We all need positive intentions right now. If I don’t see your name, I’ll understand.

May I ask my friends wherever you might be, to kindly copy and paste this status for one hour to give a moment of support to all of those who have family problems, health struggles, job issues, worries of any kind and just needs to know that someone cares.

Do it for all of us, for nobody is immune.

Can you relate to what Carolyn said? I know that I can. Especially when she mentioned that the people who are the strongest are usually the most sensitive, the people who are the kindest are the first to be mistreated, and the people who take care of others all the time are usually the ones who need it the most. I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Are we doing our best?

Are we doing our best? Being the highly sensitive person perfectionist that I am, I get extremely frustrated when I’m not maximizing my talents and abilities or when I’m not working at peak efficiency.

In a similar vein, I get upset when others aren’t giving their best. I bristle when I receive poor service or a lackluster response from a person who is being paid to help me. I get angry when I hear about the latest scandal or blunder that our political leaders have committed. I get even angrier when I realize that I, and all the other taxpayers, will pay for their mistakes. I get distressed when I look at the current economic state of the world.

Highly sensitive people can easily get caught up in outer circumstances. This is because we are conscientious, have a strong sense of justice and fairness, and a tendency to think about things on a deep level. For us, it can be extremely difficult to remain at peace when things aren’t as we think they should be. We may be tempted to lash out or blame others for our unhappiness or for the problems of the world.

One of the most important things we can do to combat this anger, frustration, and anxiety is to focus our energies on things that we can control. While this may seem like common sense, HSPs often have knee-jerk reactions to the doom and gloom of everyday life. We don’t always stop and consider what is actually within the scope of our control.

If you’re not happy with your life circumstances, why not channel your energy toward something that you can change, like your own behavior? What can you do to alter your perspective or to change yourself? Are there specific steps you could take that would make you happier? As you move forward, be sure to reward yourself for doing something well. This will increase your self-esteem and motivate you to keep going.

If you’re not happy with the government, why not exercise your right and privilege to vote? Approximately 30% of registered voters actually vote. After casting your ballot for the people you feel can best serve your interests, release your concerns and take satisfaction in knowing that you have done all you can.

If you’re not happy with the service industry, why not go out of your way to compliment the person who does give the extra effort? Do this in front of others if possible, and tell a manager about it. In many cases, service people just need a little bit of appreciation. Not only will that person feel great, but you’ll have a sense of well-being too. You’ll also be increasing the likelihood that others will receive great service as well. When we reward outstanding behavior, we perpetuate it.

It’s important to remember that you are not powerless. You ARE powerful when you take the time to evaluate your circumstances and are realistic about the impact you can make on the world. If you want to elicit change, you must act from within your sphere of influence. Instead of trying to control external events or the behavior of other people, focus on your own behavior, become a positive role model, and shift to a more optimistic perspective.

Are you doing your best? How do you feel about others doing their best? How can you handle the imperfections of yourself and others? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: How can you find a business opportunity?

How can you find a business opportunity? I get many requests from highly sensitive people who want to be self-employed. Self-employment is a great option for highly sensitive people. It allows you to work at your own pace and be in your best environment. They most requested question I get is… How they can find the best business opportunity?

A business opportunity can be defined as a product or service that is attractive, durable, and timely. This product or service creates or adds value for its buyer or end-user.

Here are some important points for finding a good business opportunity.

* Find a need that isn’t being fulfilled. There are gaps that exist in customer needs. Can you meet these needs?

* Conditions are changing. Some examples are governmental regulations, styles, new technology, new trends, etc. Can what you do, tap into this?

* Product benefits and quality are inconsistent, incomplete, and information is lacking in many products and services. Can you improve upon this? Can you differentiate your product or service from your competition? Are there enough reasons why a consumer would buy from you, rather than your competition?

* The product or service that your offering has to be profitable. Can you make enough money to do this?

* Do your personal interests, expertise, and personal temperament fit this opportunity? You have to do a lot of personal soul-searching and gather objective information when analyzing an opportunity. It’s important to note that you can try something on a part-time basis to see if this is the right fit for you. Not being afraid of experimenting with various opportunities is the key to finding what’s right for you.

How do you find a business opportunity? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Do you take advantage of two important highly sensitive person traits?

Do you take advantage of two important highly sensitive person traits? Here’s some information that will get you to think more about this question.

Shark Tank judge Robert Herjavec shared some business insights with Steve Strauss of USA Today.

Q: You started with so little and became incredibly successful in business. What do you think you did right?

Robert Herjavec: There really is no silver bullet. What it took, and what it takes, is constant perseverance. You have to strive to be a little bit better every day. When I was a waiter, I wanted to be the best waiter I could be and worked to be better at it every day. You know, eventually we all get our asses kicked, so what you have to do is just to keep going, and work to improve at whatever it is you do.

Q: So how important is one’s mindset, then? There are a lot of people who come on your show for instance who seem to have a great idea but don’t get funding. What is it then that makes for a great entrepreneur?

A: It is human nature, especially as we get older, to look for stability in our lives. But if you want to be a successful entrepreneur, you have to fight against that somewhat, as starting a business requires movement. You cannot stay still. There are all sorts of different characteristics that make for being a successful entrepreneur, and I think the first is simply perseverance. But you also must have what I call a “foolish belief” in yourself and your vision, but at the same time, you cannot come across as too boastful. The other thing, and the biggest mistake I see, is that as an entrepreneur, it is your job to add value to your business, your invention, your customers, and so on. Yes, your idea might be unique and different, but does it add value?

Q: When I watch Shark Tank, one thing I notice is that the people who seem to be the most successful not only have a great idea, but they also have a high degree of emotional intelligence.

A: Yes, I do think that is accurate. As an investor, I need to believe in not only the product, but the person.

Q: I know that one of the investments you made on the show that you are very enthusiastic about was something called Chord Buddy (a device that easily helps people learn to play the guitar.) How is that going?

A: That was one of the best investments ever on the show. After the show aired, Travis (perry the inventor) had $500,000 on sales. One thing to understand is that sometimes the illogical works. What I mean by that is that Chord Buddy is a fun product and Travis is a fun guy. I love that. He’s a great guy. It’s fun and a fun business.

Perseverance, the quality that allows someone to continue trying to do something even though it is difficult, and having emotional intelligence, the level of your ability to understand other people, what motivates them, and how to work cooperatively with them are common traits of highly sensitive people. Do you take advantage of them? If so, why not start your own business? If not, how can you use these positive traits to your advantage? I’m interest in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Do you lack motivation?

Do you lack motivation? It happens to us all. One day we’re motivated and the next day we’re not. Staying motivated isn’t easy. If it were, everybody would be perpetually motivated.

You may have felt good about a certain job or project when it first began. You were filled with enthusiasm. Then you hit a few speed bumps and unexpected things happened. All those positive feelings turned into negative ones. You feel like you want to give up. Can any of you related to this?

Turning negative emotions around is definitely doable! The best way to do this is to understand them, analyze them, and figure out what caused them. We lose our motivation as we lose our focus, confidence, and our direction. If you can learn to control these three factors, you can better control your life.

Focus on what you really want. Be specific and be positive. We generally think in terms of what we don’t have rather than focus on what we want. Don’t focus on your fears but what you can do to overcome them. Don’t focus on being poor but on a plan to create wealth.

Create a plan to get there one manageable step at a time. You don’t become the president of a company until you come up from the ranks. Focus on your plan to achieve your objectives and goals. Be realistic with your goals. Goals that are unreachable can deplete your energy and cause you to quit. Small goals that are achieved lead to increased motivation and productivity.

Boost your confidence by taking stock on what you already have and not what you lack. You’ll probably discover that you’re more successful than you think. We waste our mind power by being jealous of others instead of working on achieving our own aspirations. Don’t take your strengths for granted. Be grateful for them and utilize them!

Without direction there is no motivation. You must create a day-to-day strategy. Make a written list that’s specific with a time element involved and do it. Mark off each item once it’s accomplished. Today’s actions will create a better future.

Don’t be discouraged about a temporary loss of motivation. Look at it as an opportunity to step back and analyze what you’re doing wrong and what you’re doing right. Discover your faults and correct them. When you re-evaluate your plans and goals from a fresh perspective, you’ll feel a new surge of enthusiasm and motivation.

Do you lack motivation? What do you do to get back on track? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

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#Highly Sensitive People: Four straightforward steps to success by Jim Rohn

Here are four simple steps for highly sensitive people to consider to find your way to more success than you could ever imagine:

1. Collect good ideas. My mentor taught me to keep a journal when I was 25 years old. It’s the best collecting place for all of the ideas and information that comes your way. And that inspiration will be passed on to my children and my grandchildren.

If you hear a good health idea, capture it, write it down. Then on a cold wintry evening or a balmy summer night, go back through your journal. Dive back into the ideas that changed your life, the ideas that saved your marriage, the ideas that bailed you out of hard times, the ideas that helped you become successful. That’s valuable, going back over the pages of ideas you gathered over the years, reminiscing, reminding yourself. So be a collector of good ideas, of experiences, for your business, for your relationships, for your future.

It is challenging to be a student of your own life, your own future, your own destiny. Don’t trust your memory. When you listen to something valuable, write it down. When you come across something important, write it down. Take the time to keep notes and to keep a journal.

2. Have good plans. Building a life, building anything, is like building a house; you need to have a plan. What if you just started laying bricks and somebody asks, “What are you building?” You put down the brick you’re holding and say, “I have no idea.”

So, here’s the question: When should you start building the house? Answer: As soon as you have it finished. It’s simple time management.

Don’t start the day until it is pretty well finished—at least the outline of it. Leave some room to improvise, leave some room for extra strategies, but finish it before you start it. Don’t start the week until you have it finished. Lay it out, structure it, put it to work. The same goes for the month ahead—don’t start it until you have a plan in place.

And, the big one, don’t start the year until it is finished on paper. It’s not a bad idea, toward the end of the year, to sit down with your family for the personal plans, to sit down in your business for the professional plans, to sit down with your financial advisor to map out money plans. Plan out your calendar, your game plan, for all of life’s moving parts.

The reason why most people face the future with apprehension instead of anticipation is because they don’t have it well designed.

3. Give yourself time. It takes time to build a career. It takes time to make changes. It takes time to learn, grow, change, develop and produce. It takes time to refine philosophy and activity. So give yourself time to learn, time to start some momentum, time to finally achieve.

I remember when Mama was teaching me a little bit about the piano. “Here is the left hand scale,” she said. I got that; it was easy. “Here is the right hand scale.” I got that, too. Then she said, “Now we are going to play both hands at the same time.” “Well, how can you do that?” I asked. Because one at a time was easy… but two the same time? But I got to where I could play the scales with both hands. “Now we are going to read the music and play with both hands,” she said. You can’t do all that, I thought. But you know, sure enough I looked at the music, looked at each hand, a little confused at first, but finally I grasped it. Then I remember the day when Mama said, “Now we are going to watch the audience, read the music and play with both hands. Now that is going too far! I thought. How could one person possibly do all that? By giving myself time to master one skill before we went to the next, I got to where I could watch the audience, read the music and play with both hands.

Life is not just the passing of time. Life is the collection of experiences and their intensity.

4. Change yourself. Learn to solve problems—business problems, family problems, financial problems, emotional problems. The best way to treat a challenge? As an opportunity to grow. Change if you have to, modify if you must, discard an old philosophy that wasn’t working well for a new one.

The best phrase my mentor ever gave me: “Mr. Rohn, if you will change, everything will change for you.” I took that to heart, and sure enough, the more I improved, the more everything improved for me.

You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.

The degree of our success is directly related to the degree in which we excel in and balance certain segments of our life.

Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines practiced every day.

Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.

I’ve said it before, that success is the study of the obvious—but sometimes we need someone to remind us and show us the simplest way to get there.

I really benefited from these tips. It’s true that we need someone to remind us and show us the simplest way to help us get to where we want to go. I’m interested in any thoughts or comment that you have.

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