Can we learn from joy and sorrow? We’re all periodically visited by joy and sorrow in our lives. What we do with the experiences set apart the survivors from those who let either one overtake them. If you’ve never experienced sadness, you’re missing one of the great character-building elements in your life. If you’ve never experienced joy, you’re missing one of the greatest building blocks to success and true happiness.
Sorrow can turn you into a bitter person and ruin what chances you have at true love and abundance of good things in your life. It can keep you from attracting the positive forces that will enhance your life.
Everyone experiences sorrow in a lifetime of experiences. You may be having trouble getting over the death of a loved one or the ending of a relationship. You may have gone through an awful tragedy that has altered your life and the lives of those you love. We can learn from our sorrows and disappointments. This is where we gain wisdom that makes us stronger to face life’s challenges.
Grief is a normal part of life, the same as birth and deaths, but if you dwell on the grieving times of your life, you’ll never experience the joy that life has to offer.
It may sound simplistic, but when you feel that sorrow permeates your life and you just can’t rise above it, think about times in your life when you felt truly happy. It doesn’t have to be a major life-changing event. Think about the time when someone paid you a sincere compliment. Think about taking a walk with or being with your pet and feeling the delight that you experienced.
Those are just a few examples of the little things that you can do to get your mind off the sorrow you’re feeling and back to the happiness that’s still available in your life.
You may even want to write down some things you’re happy about – a gratitude journal about what’s positive in your life. Listening to beautiful music, watching a funny or gratifying movie or reading a good book are just some of the things in your life that you can be grateful for.
Eventually, you’ll have to deal with situations like unpaid bills or evictions notices, and you’ll experience sadness when this happens. But, deal with them as best you can and then move on.
It doesn’t help at all to focus on self-pity or “what ifs,” — only driving you further into a rut. Choose to think about happier times and those to come or you’ll continue to live a life without the proper perspective of how life really is.
By choosing to focus on joy rather than sorrow, you’re choosing to control your thoughts. When you do that, you’ll be in better control of your life.
Can we learn from joy and sorrow? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.