How much socializing do you need? Especially during the holidays. Studies show that our capacity to connect with other people plays an important role in our personal happiness, longevity, and ability to handle stress.
Unfortunately, since highly sensitive people tend to need a lot of “alone” time, it’s relatively easy to get caught up in our own “little worlds”. While it’s healthy to have some alone time, we need to be careful that we don’t take it too far and become socially isolated.
It’s critical for HSPs to seek out like-minded people, especially those who are nurturing and optimistic. Do you feel guilty for not wanting to associate or see people who you think you should? Why put pressure on yourself to do something that you don’t want to do?
Being honest with yourself about what you want and need and setting boundaries with others is the way to conquer your guilt feelings about being or appearing “selfish”. You’re entitled to your feelings! Don’t let anyone, including relatives, make you go against your feelings.
You deserve to be around people who uplift and make you feel good about yourself and life in general. Sometimes you need to take an inventory of the people in your life who are good and bad for you. It might be difficult, but you may want to keep your distance or stay away from people who bring you down. Perhaps it could be people who are close to you.
Why not seek new people who will give you a better sense of well-being and will motivate you to greater things. Change is difficult, but it’ll be well worth your while.
How much socializing do you need? Enough to make you feel fulfilled. Only you can make that decision. I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.