How do difficult people affect you? If you’re a highly sensitive person, a person who has a negative attitude or a sour outlook on life is “poison” to you.
Are their people in your life that make you bad about yourself? Are they judgmental and are constantly pointing out the negative in you as well as life in general? If so, you may need a difficult person ectomy. This means that you need to remove this person/persons from your life.
Why not get rid of people who suck the life out of you? These are the people who when you get done having a conversation with them, make you feel drained. They are emotional vampires!
You might not even recognize the damage that’s being done to you by the difficult people in your life. You might not recognize the signs that someone in your life is problematic, but here’s how you can tell if you’ve been affected by one. Some examples include:
* After spending time in their presence, you find yourself feeling edgy, jittery, and often turning to habits that are no good for you, such as turning to alcohol or binge eating.
* Difficult people are often dramatic. Not a good fit for a highly sensitive person! They complain that no one has a life as bad as theirs. No matter what you or anyone says, it never helps. You hate the thought of getting trapped in conversation with this person because you know it’s going to be a whiny barrage of how awful his or her life is.
* Are their people in your life that bring out your worst qualities and behavior? By that I mean…Do you normally speak respectfully to others, but find yourself yelling and saying inappropriate things to this person who pushes ALL of your buttons?
If you can relate to any of these examples, you may be associating with people who are damaging you emotionally and physically. Something important to consider is not all people are good for you, even if that person is a family member. While you might not be able to avoid them completely, you should try to avoid getting cornered and drawn into a long conversation.
You cannot change a difficult and pessimistic person. It’s not your job to do so. You can protect your own emotional and mental health by cultivating positive relationships that uplift and inspire you.
How do difficult people affect your life? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.