I write this post with a heavy heart and tears in my eyes. If you recall, I wrote a post about needing your input about my mother’s upcoming 90th birthday.
I was conflicted about what to do about having her birthday party on the exact day, July 10th, which was on a Thursday. My sister’s wanted to celebrate on the weekend because of work schedules. I didn’t feel right about this and asked for your opinion.
In typical highly sensitive fashion, I received very thoughtful and helpful suggestions. I thank you all for them!
I decided to talk to my mother about this. She told me that she wanted to have everyone together and didn’t care what day we celebrated her birthday.
In order to keep peace in the family and to honor my personal feelings about this, I decided to take out my mother and aunt to lunch on her birthday with a mini birthday cake on her actual birth date, and to have a 90th birthday dinner on the weekend.
This idea made me feel comfortable and it felt right. As the time for the celebration came near, the plans were coming together and everyone was going to be there. Just like my mother wanted!
My mother passed away suddenly a week before her birthday. The family WAS all together. Unfortunately it was at her funeral.
It’s been about two weeks since her death. I can’t believe she’s gone. It’s difficult to work through my grief. I have many things to do to take care of her estate. Not to mention the things that I normally do, including writing these blog posts.
I’m going to write about what I’m going through and how I’m coping with this devastating loss in future blog posts. I’m interested in any thoughts or comments you have about how you cope with a devastating loss.