#Highly Sensitive People: How do you make others feel?

How do you make others feel? An honest answer to this question is vital! Are people genuinely glad to see you? Do they feel better or maybe uplifted by your presence or by what you have said to them?

Although I’m not perfect, I try to be a positive force whenever I meet someone in person or communicate with them with my writing. Taking a genuine interest in the welfare of others is my personal philosophy. Being encouraging to others makes me feel good and I get a sense of personal satisfaction when I can be of service to others through my HSP Coaching, my newsletter, my blog, and my Facebook and Twitter posts.

It’s important to take notice of how others make you feel. Do you feel better or worse by being around a particular person? Is there something about this person that doesn’t make you feel right? Perhaps you need to stay away or keep your distance from this person.

The way others feel about you needs to be examined. Your life is affected, negatively and positively, by the way others perceive you. Your personal and professional relationships, your general happiness, and your self-esteem are determined by the way you make others feel.

It doesn’t take much to make others feel better. Perhaps smiling more, giving a genuine complement, being a good listener, say encouraging words, being a good friend, or showing a genuine respect for others can make you a person that others like to be around.

How do you make others feel? What can you do or not do to make others feel better? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.

I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”…Maya Angelou

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One Response to #Highly Sensitive People: How do you make others feel?

  1. HSPTweets says:

    I agree ultimately it is true that “I can’t MAKE anyone else feel anything”, just as you can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink. A person can react negatively to me despite my honest, kind, and good intentions. They react however they react according to the circumstances, dynamics, and individual personal psychologies involved.

    However, that does not mean that we don’t have an influence on others or ‘tend to make them feel’ a certain way. If I were frequently a negative, sarcastic, cynical kind of person it would not be surprising if others feel they did not want to be around me, would it? This is the kind of reaction I would tend to elicit from other people. If I changed my attitude to something more friendly and kind I would tend to elicit a better response from others. Our grandmothers were right: You will draw more flies with honey than vinegar :-) .

    I believe the intent of Cliff’s article was to remind us that we have more social influence in our lives than we sometimes take responsibility for. If we aren’t happy it can help to examine our own behaviors and how they may indirectly or directly affect others. No person is an island. And it is a lot easier to try to change ourselves than to change others. We don’t have to be inflexible jerks or co-dependents.

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