Do you have any demanding people in your life? I know that this is a ridiculous question for me to ask. Everyone does! They come disguised in many forms. It could be a relative, friend, boss, co-worker, customers, or someone who we casually come in contact with such as in a grocery store. Have I left anyone out? Feel free to add to the list!
Have you ever thought that it would be wonderful to not have to deal with people all the time? I know that I have. There are some people who cause me to have anxiety, frustration, anger, and in some cases cause me to be just like them…DEMANDING, UNREASONABLE, AND DIFFICULT TO BE AROUND. Can anyone relate to my plight?
In order to keep my sanity and avoiding needless stress, I’ve come up with some strategies to lighten my emotional and physical load. They are as follows:
* Changing my reaction to others. There are some people who don’t deserve my attention. These include people who I come in contact with who aren’t important to me. Ignoring and not feeding into a person’s negative energy conserves my energy.
* I try to change myself. Often there is nothing about what we do or say to cause the other person to be difficult. We are usually not the catalyst for their behavior. But sometimes we are. Haven’t you had people in your life who have rubbed you the wrong way? Doesn’t it stand to reason that we may be causing that reaction in someone else? Frequently, we’re blind to our own shortcomings. It’s important to reflect on them and make changes as needed.
* Decide to put up with it. There are times when you have to put up with difficult people for the time being. You might have to put up with a demanding boss because you need the job. Use your angst to give you the motivation to find a better situation.
* Try to understand the demanding person. Take the time to understand the other person’s motivation for acting the way they do. Highly sensitive people have the unique ability to do this. For example, you have a demanding boss who criticizes you needlessly. You might say to your boss that you want to be helpful and would appreciate any feedback that will help me better help you and the company. I admit that this is not an easy thing to do! How many people would actually do this? Not many, but if you do, you would stand out from others and get the respect you deserve.
Do you have any demanding people in your life? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.