Are you the type of person who feels that you can solve all of your problems yourself? Do you tend to assume that others can read your mind when you want something?
As a highly sensitive person, I instinctively try to handle all situations myself and believe that others know what I’m feeling and wanting. Sometimes when I ask for help, it makes me feel like a “failure”.
Over the years, I have been working on releasing some of these self-defeating beliefs. After all, they never make the situation better and only place more stress on my already overactive nervous system.
I have become more productive and have lightened my stress level by asking and telling other people what I want and need. I know this sounds simple, but it works.
I realize that you may feel guilty or selfish in asking to have your needs met, but there is nothing wrong with wanting to take care of yourself. It is actually one of the most healthy things you can do. As HSPs, we often expect too much from ourselves and from other people, which just sets us up for needless hurt and aggravation.
As human beings, it’s natural and healthy to look out for our own best interests. It is part of the self-care that is crucial to our happiness.
This process is not easy. Old habits do not die easily. I also realize that it can be difficult to ask for things, because when you ask for something, it opens up the scary possibility of being rejected. However, you have far more to lose by not asking at all. With a little practice and patience with yourself, you will find that most people will genuinely want to be helpful and will respect your wishes.
Do you ask for what you want? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.