I was doing a social experiment with my cats Prissy and Charlie. I looked at them and asked them to moo. They looked at me strangely and thought I was crazy. I think they wanted to do it, but felt unsure how to do so. As much as they wanted to, they didn’t have the capacity to moo.
How often do you expect others to act in a way that they are not capable of? Frustration over the behavior of other people is a major source of stress for highly sensitive people.
When you take a closer look at your personal and professional relationships, you may find that you get upset when people don’t act as you wish. You may be trying to change the unchangeable, and as a result, you become hostage to your own expectations.
Fortunately, there is a way out. Awareness and acceptance are the keys to freedom. Awareness of what other people are capable of, and acceptance of their limitations, will lighten your load. Why go against the natural behavior of others? Don’t we get annoyed when people tell us to not be so sensitive? They are asking us to not be ourselves. This is unrealistic and unproductive for both sides.
Instead of focusing on the weaknesses of others, shift your attention to their strengths. Different people will meet your needs at different times. When you need support, go to a person with a track record of being supportive. If you need someone to lift your spirits, seek out a person who is naturally enthusiastic and optimistic.
Don’t try to get validation from the person who never gives it. Don’t expect punctuality from the person who is chronically late. Having unrealistic expectations just deplete your energy.
Yes, it would be nice if I could teach my cats to moo, but I know they aren’t capable of doing that. This is not a “deal breaker” for me to have them in my life. I love them and accept them the way they are. As any animal lover can attest, our pets provide us with comfort, companionship, and unconditional love.
It’s easy to rationalize that we can change people or that they will change to meet our needs, but this isn’t going to happen. Instead, accept “what is”, make adjustments when needed, and get ready to embrace a less stressful life.
Can you make a cat moo? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.