Do you have a reason for being? This question comes to mind because I was told by a person, who I adore very much, that he didn’t have a reason for being.
I recently went to a funeral for Estelle, my sister’s mother in law. My family and I celebrated many celebrations with her and her husband Bob. She and Bob were a very fun couple to be around. They were very upbeat and you could tell that they were very devoted to each other. They did everything together. They were involved in many activities and Estelle was involved in volunteer work with children.
Estelle and Bob first met when they we ten years old and they were married for 67 years! Quite an accomplishment. They were true childhood sweethearts. How many people do you know who have been married this long?
Estelle was in failing health for the past few years. Bob’s reason for being was to take care of her. Her death was still a shock to him. As you can imagine, it was a devastating loss for Bob.
At the memorial service, Bob told a heartfelt story about his life with Estelle. There truly was not a dry eye in the room. I’m tearing up as I write this post.
After the funeral, Bob mentioned to me that he had no reason to live because he lost his lifetime partner. I was a little flustered and very sad. I gain my composure and mentioned to him that he had a lot to live for. He had three very accomplished children, six grandchildren and many friends. I asked him if he would like to participate in happy occasions with them and see his grandchildren growing up. I also mentioned that he had a lot to teach everyone. Who couldn’t benefit from a person who has lived a well lived life?
He seemed to feel a little better. I told him to be patient with himself and allow himself to grieve and vent his feelings to others. I also mentioned that it takes time to recover from a devastating loss.
Unfortunately there will be many times in our lives when we feel lost and lose our way in life. If put in its proper perspective, we all have a reason for being, regardless of what stage of life we’re in. Isn’t life meant to be enjoyed? Can’t we contribute to others? These questions should be considered to put us back on our right path.
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