It’s true that we never know what’s going to happen from day-to-day. Grief for a human being, a beloved pet, a lost relationship, a job loss, or a loss in any other form can be devastating. Deeply feeling highly sensitive people may experience a longer lasting feeling of grief and loss. It’s important that we have a strategy to help us through these difficult times.
I would like to give you some of the strategies that help me in difficult times. They are as follows:
* Don’t minimize your loss. Don’t ignore the importance of your loss or be embarrassed by it. Be patient with yourself and give yourself enough time to work through your feelings.
* Share your feelings and seek comfort from others. Talk about your feelings with your family and friends. It’s okay to cry if you need to. Don’t be ashamed to seek professional help if you need it.
* Make the time to rest. Since emotional and physical energy can be easily depleted by grief, it’s extremely important to exercise self-care when coping with intense emotions. We have to take the time to re-charge our batteries by having enough alone time and getting our proper rest.
*Remember the good times. It’s very helpful to remember the good times associated with your loss, whether it be a person, pet, job loss, etc. You can always glean some “happiness nuggets” from these losses. Remembering a happy event or lessons learned will help you.
*Have a proper ending. A proper ending for your loss is a very individualized thing. It’s important that you do what’s comfortable and appropriate for you.
I have a problem going to funerals, but I go to them to pay the proper respect to the individual and their families. Although I feel drained, emotional and physically, after them, I have a good feeling that I did the right thing and helped others by my presence. I’m not afraid to show my emotions to others. If I feel like crying, I do. The “right” people will understand. It’s important for everyone to vent their emotions. Don’t make yourself sick by keeping your feelings inside.
A proper ending for job loss might be to move forward and take what you’ve learned to use it to be in a better situation.
* Can good losses be stressful? Yes they can! Newlyweds and parents can definitely relate to this. They are losing a life that they had before and trading it in for a happier and more fulfilling life. Even a good change can be very stressful. Give yourself enough time to make adjustments.
Are losses difficult for you? How do you cope with them? I’m interested in any thoughts or comments that you have.