#Highly Sensitive People: I’m proud to be a perfectionist!

“Absolute perfection is impossible to achieve,” you will insist, and of course you’ll be correct. But what is so wrong about making an extraordinary effort in every task that you undertake? As a productive force, perfectionism provides the drive to do one’s best.

I’m a highly sensitive person and a perfectionist. These characteristics seem to be linked together. They can be strengths if they’re not taken to the extreme.

I’ve been “suffering” with perfectionism all of my life. I was perfectionist as a child and if I made a mistake, I’d feel humiliated and hate myself for it. This unhealthy attitude made me an underachiever throughout my school years.

Another problem of perfectionism is that you expect everyone and everything to be perfect. This is a terrible burden to carry through life. You expect that everyone will feel and do things the way you do. This is not realistic!

Unrealistic expectations will make you miserable. You’ll be frustrated that events, social situations, and people, are not the way you want them to be. You’ll fight with everyone about meaningless things. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t expect good things from yourself and others, but you need to focus on what’s important. Pick your “battles” carefully.

A perfectionist characteristic is seeking outside approval from others before making a decision. It’s fine to get advise from others, but not if it’s taken to the extreme and keeps you from making a decision.

Another perfectionist trait is having a hard time delegating. I have this problem. I’ve had this false belief that “if you want something done right, you have to do it yourself.” This feeling stemmed from many people letting me down, not from my superior attitude. I have come to realize, that if you work with a qualified person with honorable intentions, they’ll do a better job.

I’m still haunted by my perfectionist tendencies, but they don’t keep me from achievement or happiness in my life. I’ve learned to work with my feelings.

My perfectionism has helped me take advantage of my strong motivation that pushes me to work hard. It has given me the desire to improve myself. I’ve learned to set realistic short-term goals. Most importantly, I have learned that “good enough is really good enough.” I’ve finally come to realize that although I’m not perfect, I’m a pretty good and capable person!

I did something that I didn’t think was possible. I wrote a book. I never thought that I’d finish it. This was truly a miracle! I was riddled with the burden of trying to make the book “too perfect”. I wrote about my personal life as a highly sensitive person. I was concerned about what others would think of me. I decided to use my perfectionism to create the best book that I could and not look back.

It is fine to give your best effort and be conscientious, but don’t let your perfectionism keep you from finishing something. Perfectionism can be the motivating force to create your own miracles. I’m proud to be a perfectionist! If you’re a perfectionist, what miracles can you create for your highly sensitive person self?

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2 Responses to #Highly Sensitive People: I’m proud to be a perfectionist!

  1. Kelsey says:

    Hi Cliff!

    It’s me again! I genuinely laughed out loud when I read the part about delegating jobs. I had to work as part of a “team” for my music A Level and ended up doing literally /everything/ myself. It’s scary how much I relate to this post! But to know that I can use my “power” for good and not evil makes me smile :) This is a brilliant blog!

    -Kelsey

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