It’s bad enough when other people criticize us, but what is the worst kind of criticism that has the most long lasting impact on us?
Pascal Woudenberg made an interesting point on The Highly Sensitive Person Publishing Company Facebook page. He said… “There is one thing I have noticed about myself, the less I judge myself, the less I can be judged. Which makes me think that others can’t make us feel judged, it is us who judge our selves.”
That’s it, Pascal! Self-criticism is the worst criticism that has the most long lasting impact on us. Why is it that we are our own worst critics? We would never talk to others the way we talk to ourselves. Perhaps we highly sensitive people try to be “too perfect”. This is unrealistic and unattainable. Why should we burden ourselves?
How do you talk to yourself? If you’re like most people, you probably say more negative comments to yourself than positive ones. This is a bad habit that we all need to break. The good and bad things you say to yourself is deeply imbedded in your subconscious mind.
Unconscious messages affect every decision that we make in life. The better messages our brain receives, the better our self-esteem will be. The more positive we feel about ourselves, the happier and more productive our lives will be. An added bonus is that other people’s criticisms will not bother us as much.
Catch yourself when you say negative things about yourself to yourself. It’s human nature to make mistakes. Learn from them. Remember that you need to be your own best friend and forgive yourself for any wrongdoing.
What can you do to break this habit? What haven’t you forgiven yourself for? Don’t you think it’s time to do so?
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