Pessimistic people have a negative attitude and sour outlook on life. They can bring you down. More often than not, the clues are so subtle that you might miss them at first.
Think about the people in your life. Now think about the ones that often belittle others – make cutting remarks – (even to you) and pass it off as ‘just joking.’ They’re judgmental and are constantly pointing out the negative in you as well as in life in general.
A person in your life that weighs you down is someone that masquerades as a friend, but is in reality your enemy. You could also say that they are emotional vampires. They are people who remove all your positive energy and leave the negative. These are the people who, when you get done having a phone conversation with them, make you feel drained. You feel bad about yourself and your life.
After spending time in their presence, you find yourself edgy, jittery and often turning to what’s not good for you in order to self-medicate the emotional tornado they’ve left in their wake. For example, you might find yourself wanting to drink a lot more alcohol to dull the moodiness they’ve created in you. Or you might want to turn to your favorite calorie laden foods and just binge.
Pessimistic people are often dramatic – no one has a life as bad as theirs. No matter what you or anyone says, it never helps. You hate the thought of getting trapped in conversation with this person because you know it’s going to be a whiny barrage of how awful his or her life is.
Not all relationships are good for you – even if that other person is a family member. While you might not be able to avoid them completely, you should try to avoid getting cornered and drawn into a long conversation.
Pessimistic people will try to make you feel guilty about your life versus theirs. For example, they might have financial woes and try to make you feel bad that you’re more financially stable.
You cannot change people who have a pessimistic outlook on life and it’s not your job to do so. Protect your own emotional and mental health by cultivating friends that are positive and loving – relationships that are healthy and give you the freedom to grow without getting showered by negativity. A true friend supports you and will speak the truth to you in a way that doesn’t tear you down.
Do you have negative influences in your life? If so, how can you eliminate or keep your distance from them?
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